Me posting this definitely doesn’t mean I’m an expert in the area of relationships!
But I have been able to learn a few things over the past couple of years and the bottom line is…
Most single people believe way too many “Myths” about Marriage and Relationships, for instance…
1. All of my friends are married…I am not…something is obviously wrong with me.
2. When I get married my spouse will meet all of my needs.
3. The way I handle my money now will not impact my future marriage.
4. We should live together before we get married to give it a “trial run,” after all, you would not buy a car without test driving it first. (See Hebrews 13:4)
5. I need to keep as many secrets about my past from this person as possible; after all, my past issues won’t impact this relationship at all.
6. Being miserable is the result of being single…getting married will solve all my problems.
7. I’ve messed up in my past and do not deserve anyone good. (See I Corinthians 6:9-11, especially focus on verse 11!)
8. Ephesians 3:20 isn’t true for me and my future spouse…I need to settle.
9. This relationship that I am in isn’t what I would like my marriage to be like..but when we get married I can change this person.
10. Having sex will simplify things and cause the person I am dating and myself to have so much more in common. (See I Corinthians 6:18-20)
11. This person is not God’s best for me…but if I rush through the process of dating and getting married then I have God backed into a corner and He has to bless me because He loves me, right? (See Deuteronomy 6:16)
12. Marriage isn’t that big of a deal…if my first one does not work out then I can drop them and start over. (See Malachi 2:13-16)
13. Getting married isn’t going to alter my lifestyle…I am still going to be able to live like I did when I was single, the only difference is I’m going to get to have more sex.
14. I am going to get to have sex anytime I want.
15. We are going to cuddle all of the time.
16. The things that really get all over my nerves about this person won’t bother me as much when we get married.
17. The fact that we do not agree on what we believe when it comes to Jesus and the church will not impact the way we raise our kids. (See II Corinthians 6:14 and Amos 3:3)
18. Dating is tough…marriage is easy!
Some of you may believe some of the these things and that’s your choice.
But the truth I’ve learned is, it’s better to focus on becoming the ONE Jesus has called you to be so that if and when he does bring the ONE in your life, you will be ready.
Until your princess or prince shows up, focus on seeking Jesus with everything, loving others and serving the local Church. Keep the main thing the main thing and remember JESUS IS ENOUGH!
And for the ladies who struggle to wait for their prince, I think I’ll let Janette encourage you…